9 Comments

THANK YOU for articulating this so perfectly, I’ve never been able to explain properly why I hate surprises so much!

Once when I was about 18, was going out for a birthday meal with 6 of my friends and was really excited about getting a “fancy burger” at the restaurant. I arrived at my friend’s parent’s house to get a lift there, and my pals all leapt out at me and told me we were having a surprise party instead, for just the 6 of us…in my friends parents living room 🤔 I had to act like it was a brilliant surprise and much more fun to eat Iceland frozen party food at home instead of a nice fancy burger at a restaurant. I was livid all night but had to pretend to be overjoyed 😂

Expand full comment

I TOTALLY understand this. It's like you've got something really solid in your head and someone breaks it. And even if it's better (and it not always is) it still bad when it breaks. I hope you got to have your fancy burger some other time!

Expand full comment

I arranged a surprise 40th for my wife and she loved it. If anyone did it for me I would honestly run away. I can’t think of anything worse.

Expand full comment

I very nearly did run away! I'm glad your wife loved it. It must be very awkward for the organisers when someone legs it.

Expand full comment

This! Now I am no Drifter, but I absolutely hate surprises. Anything that upsets the norm.

Expand full comment

I can’t ever recall someone doing a surprise party or trip for me

Expand full comment

Would you like it if they did? Maybe your people know you too well. (And to be clear, I've only ever had one surprise party!!)

Expand full comment

I really don’t know. It would have to be absolutely perfect in every respect; different people know different facets of ‘me’ and are unlikely to ever get together…

Expand full comment

I think that's the weird thing about parties as you get older. Too many different parts of your life colliding.

Expand full comment